Sweet Memories

I am a career woman with one child, striving to find a better balance between life/work. I enjoy documenting memories, and am striving to get more creative with sharing them with others. I struggle with making decisions, and am seeking a stronger support system and want to learn from others' experiences. I want to connect more with those that have a sweet sensitive spirit.

Sunday, January 07, 2007

First Meeting


On Thanksgiving, I had a very moving and emotional chat with my MIL...about her marriage, her relationship with her ex husband and my concerns for Kayla asking about her daddys daddy. My little one is very spiritual, has a very sensitive spot for those that are sick, speaks of heaven and god quite often, even though we don't go to church, she is a believer in the 'spirit of god' and just wants to build her relationships with people. My MIL and I spoke about Kayla going to see Grandpa Bill at the hospital (Veterans) but I never persued it, did run it by my husband. Lots of reasons why there is distance in the family, scary stories that I wont get into here. My MIL continues her relationship to ensure that he is taken care of, does her weekly check ins and I never understood why, after years and years of pain. The night before last, my hubby was speaking with my little one about maybe someday going to see Grandpa Bill. I told him we would have to talk about it and how we would handle the visit. Last night after work, we had dinner, and Kayla said, "I went to see Grandpa Bill today". I looked at my husband and he smiled. I don't ever see that smile lately. He did this for his daughter, so that she would know who her grandpa was, and the way in which he explained the situation was a tear jerker. He and his mom handled this so gracefully, better than I would ever or would have the ability even with thinking about for days. I am glad I was not part of the decision to go, and that it was done as part of his healing process. I am proud of him and his mom that they made this trip today. My hubby went over there in the morning just to chat, the situation came up and my MIL said, today is as good as any day....I feel a softness about my hubby that I have never seen about this....I am grateful that my daughter got to meet her grandpa yesterday....I may put together some packages of art that she has created and start sending some things along to him.